The Recipe

If you’re a reader or subscriber to this blog, you know I don’t post on a regular basis. This ReEnchant blog is really not intended to be a news source but a heartfelt journey that touches lives. It’s spur of the moment, spontaneous and truth.  From the beginning, I’ve conceived of this forum as more of a personal quest; an exploration of how I personally experience and discover heaven on earth and how together we share our heavenly experiences-. And how these discoveries impact the world is crucial.

My posts tend to be infrequent longer at times shorter at other times. They are what they are. Just like ReEnchant is what it is. Join me. Share your discoveries. Spread them across the miles. Let’s brag, giggle, live our lives to the max. Let’s notice what is there. It is a choice.

I had an experience recently that I felt important enough to write about. As some of you know I am a mediator. It took me quite some time to get comfortable with conflict. Way after mediating. I don’t know too many mediators that started off  liking conflict. However my handle on conflict has changed.

I joined a networking group for women. Have you ever been on a board? Not an easy place to be. Lot’s of conflict there, opposing ideas for sure.

So how do you handle conflict? Do you run away, get angry first, get defensive, give in, get some one else to handle it for you or make believe it does not exist?

“The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.” – Theodore Rubin

Well a situation has arisen on this board that left many of the members speechless and without a direction and it is up to the board members to take action, but what action and how.

Not to bore you with the details of the argument/disagreement/conflict, I can sum up a simple recipe for handling pretty much any conflict which came out of this experience.

1. Use your common sense
2. Treat people the way you want to be treated (not how you think you were treated).

It really does not matter what the argument is about. Coming from these two points will open up the door to understanding, agreeing to disagree, or even a resolution.

Can you imagine how things would turn out if we used our common sense and treated people the way we wanted to be treated no matter what?

A number of surveys indicate that people in all occupations report the most uncomfortable, stress-producing parts of their jobs are the interpersonal conflicts that they experience on a daily basis between themselves and co-workers or supervisors. http://www.workdyn.com/tools-ConflictStats.html

Think about this next time you are in a conflicted situation. See how much easier it is to take care of the problem and move on. Write me and share you experiences.

It’s not rocket science but I guarantee it will make a difference.

For further articles relating to Conflict visit http://www.mediate.com/

 

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